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How to Start a Fight Club

Remember Fight Clubs are relationship based. Take some time getting to know potential Fight Club partners and make sure that you feel comfortable to share your struggles with
them.
Choose partners that are at the same life stage as you. For instance, Moms and Dads have different struggles than those with out children. It is difficult enough sharing some of the deepest parts of our dark hearts, we need to remove as many potential obstacles as possible.
Be Consistent. The best Fight Clubs are those that meet weekly or at the very least twice a month. Consistency = Commitment. Those that are committed to fight this sin with you will make the time to meet. We have found that if too much time passes between meetings you loose valuable intimacy, and become less effective.
Set Some Rules. Fight Clubs can easily turn in to a gossip session never making the Gospel turn. If one is sharing their struggles the other should be listening with a Gospel filter then sharing Gospel insights. For example: If one is sharing about their struggle with anger, detailing the last time they exploded in anger. The other partner will ask questions like: "Can you pin point what triggered the anger?" "What were the circumstances?" "What lie are you believing when you explode?"